Our phone conversation was coming to a close. She asked, 'Is there anything you can suggest I do to help myself during the day'? I asked, 'Well, is there anything that you can think of? There was a long pause and then the answer came. 'This might sound strange, given all that I've spoken about, however everything is well'.

Light House, South Shields Northumberland.

"Those who, either now or after I am dead, shall be lamps unto themselves, relying upon themselves only and not relying upon any external help, but holding fast to the truth as their lamp, and seeking their salvation in the truth alone, and shall not look for assistance to any one besides themselves,..."
The Buddha's Farewell.

Seeking help is not a problem, overly 'relying' on or depending upon external help is.

Be a lamp unto yourself...because you are that lamp.