Every now and then something, some words in this case, can hit the spot. Adrienne in her new post To Do, Or Not To Do? talks about something I had suggested that might help her. Turns out it did.
My daughter must have noticed something because she stopped talking and asked me if I was OK. I just said that I was listening to her. But something had happened between us and she and I noticed a difference. Our communication softened. I can’t remember whether I said yes or no to her request; my actual response isn’t relevant. What is important is that the experience gave me a sense of how it is possible to be really present by a simple change in my perspective. And in that space I was more able to respond fully.
While talking with Adrienne on the telephone about this recent post I realized the suggestion I’d made, some time ago, was the practical application of holding the space which I’d talked about in Holding The Space – Keeping The Beat. Most helpful Adrienne. How could I have missed that? Time to take my own good advice, and to remember it too for the future.